In recent days New Zealanders have been shaken by the sudden death of 48 year old TV presenter Greg Boyed. His family reported that he had been suffering depression.
The tragedy of Greg’s death has caused a welcome and serious media focus on the suffering and isolation that many men experience. The pressure to be strong and to provide weighs heavily on men who might have a mate to drink a beer with but no one to talk with honestly and openly about the realities of life.
Too many men who have mates, colleagues and acquaintances feel that they have no real friends.
It is significant that in the first verses of the Bible God says “it is not good that man be alone”. But many men feel that they are alone not realising that it is precisely their weakness, need, struggle and failure that gives the capacity for real friendship.
People who share their successes and achievements are only acquaintances. When vulnerability is shared friendship becomes possible.
I encourage you to take a moment to read a piece written by a friend of mine. Barry Taylor is internationally renowned as having a sound experience and understanding of the challenges that men face and how to live healthily as a man.
Read Barry’s reflection (published today on Stuff NZ) at this link.