no & yes

Dec 8, 2023


The Immaculate Conception is often confused with the Virgin birth of Jesus. It’s important to understand the difference and Pope Francis explains the Immaculate Conception well:

“The Gospel of St Luke presents us with Mary, a girl from Nazareth, a small town in Galilee, in the outskirts of the Roman Empire and on the outskirts of Israel as well. A village. Yet the Lord’s gaze rested on her, on this little girl from that distant village, on the one he had chosen to be the mother of his Son. In view of this motherhood, Mary was preserved from original sin, from that fracture in communion with God, with others and with creation, which deeply wounds every human being. But this fracture was healed in advance in the Mother of the One who came to free us from the slavery of sin. The Immaculata was written in God’s design; she is the fruit of God’s love that saves the world.” (Angelus, 8 Dec 2013)

Without this intervention of God to free Mary from the effects of Original Sin, she would have suffered the same inclination to sin that is ours before we fruitfully receive the Sacrament of Baptism (which of course did not exist before Jesus which is why God had to act directly with Mary).

The root of the problem of evil in the world (as a consequence of Original Sin) is found in the account of Adam and Eve in the opening chapters of Genesis when sin entered the world through humans’ rejection of God’s life. Once the beauty of human freedom in uncontaminated relationship with God had been disrupted by the first experience of sin, it became more difficult for us to live in constant harmony with God. We all know what this is like from our own experience in human relationships. Once we say one “no” we open a door which sets a pattern that easily becomes a habit and we then struggle to give a whole-hearted “yes.”

The Old Testament begins with a rejection of God and Adam’s first response when he meets God after his “no” is to hide. This is our problem too. We forget that God’s mercy and love is given to us anew every moment. But our shame and guilt means we foolishly keep our distance from the love we most deeply and desperately seek.

The New Testament begins with a “YES.” This new era is ours when we allow the grace given in baptism to take root and grow to maturity within us. Without this practice of the presence of Jesus, baptismal grace (while still present) struggles to bear fruit.

When the angel Gabriel brought to Mary the news that God was calling her to be the mother of his Son, did she discern whether or not to accept this? The answer is no. The one who desires to live in relationship with Jesus will not wonder whether or not to do God’s will once it is known. Instead the discerning is simply to become aware of whether or not this is God who is asking. If it is God who is asking, we simply answer “yes.”

When the angel left Mary, the challenges and problems of this new era of her life had just begun. She then had to explain to her parents that she was pregnant telling them that they should be delighted because the father was the Holy Spirit.  You can imagine the reaction.

It’s helpful for us to remember this, since saying yes to God’s will does not mean that everything is immediately easy. Instead a yes to God is a step, and these steps often mean letting go of our  attachments, compulsions and fears. It’s not easy, but in the depth of our being we know that a yes to God is the wisest and most life-giving decision of all.


Take an initiative and send me a date time and place for a FFF cafe-catchups. I’ll advertise these on each morning’s post throughout Advent.  


Reflection day with Fr. John O’Connor
Saturday 9 December 10.00am – 3.00pm
St Patrick’s Church  31 Gerald Street, Lincoln (Canterbury) 7608
All Welcome , Just turn up. BYO lunch.  (FFF – the book available, $40.00)


Sunday 10 December 12noon
St Anthony’s Seatoun.
66 Falkirk Ave.


Monday 11 December 10.00am (& every Monday)
Moko Cafe, (at this link)
Bush Inn Centre, Christchurch

Click the image below to order FFF – the book. If you already have the book please send a comment below. How are you finding it useful? Who do you think might appreciate it as a Christmas gift?  Your comments will be helpful for others.


  1. If you found this blog to be helpful in providing insight into one of the mysteries of our faith then you will find John’s new book filled with short enriching episodes like this. Wide ranging and thought provoking it’s got something for everyone. It’s a yes from me.

  2. Your words John resonated deeply with how I react with the ones in my family! We all shirk Gods infinite love by hiding, letting people down and not securing and acknowledging his unending love to face difficulties.


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